There are social events I don't go to anymore, because the hosts *know* that one of the regulars has on more than one occasion, been rejected by a woman and chose to simply socially force drinks onto them (including taking a mouthful of liqueur, kissing the woman and pushing the liqueur in to the woman's mouth with the choice of 'swallow or spill' until the woman no longer resists).
Going and finding a friend unconscious and naked in the bedroom post party and the person who was last with them has vanished is... not fucking OK.
When I have said to hosts "You know PersonX date raped person Y, right?" and get "Yes" "And are you continuing to invite X over?" "Yes, it's not the first time, it's not a big deal, if it was, Y or Z or A would have called the police on him..." ... ... ... OK, so I am never going to THAT person's parties ever again....
The REALLY sad part is... I can name -2- serial rapists in the Poly Community of the Bay Area. And one of them is still accepted at parties without any questions. It's fucked up.
I have spoken with Y and Z and neither wants to go through the both because if you look at the stats, less than 7% of accused ever see jail time, and that's out of what 40% of accused to get arrested? of Etc etc?
I am =so= angry. but frustrated. because, otherwise seemingly nice respectable safe people totally blow off the Sociopath* in the room.
*I have a form of Synesthesia. http://www.spring.org.uk/2013/10/synesthesia-could-explain-how-some-people-see-auras.php I can -see- sociopaths. I Can SEE that person X has a flat, lack of affect on certain subjects. Its one of the reasons I like Aspies; their aura's are fascinating, and their behaviors are not as transmitted before the fact unlike 'nuero-typicals'
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Going and finding a friend unconscious and naked in the bedroom post party and the person who was last with them has vanished is... not fucking OK.
When I have said to hosts "You know PersonX date raped person Y, right?" and get "Yes"
"And are you continuing to invite X over?"
"Yes, it's not the first time, it's not a big deal, if it was, Y or Z or A would have called the police on him..."
... ... ...
OK, so I am never going to THAT person's parties ever again....
The REALLY sad part is... I can name -2- serial rapists in the Poly Community of the Bay Area.
And one of them is still accepted at parties without any questions. It's fucked up.
I have spoken with Y and Z and neither wants to go through the both because if you look at the stats, less than 7% of accused ever see jail time, and that's out of what 40% of accused to get arrested? of Etc etc?
I am =so= angry. but frustrated. because, otherwise seemingly nice respectable safe people totally blow off the Sociopath* in the room.
*I have a form of Synesthesia. http://www.spring.org.uk/2013/10/synesthesia-could-explain-how-some-people-see-auras.php
I can -see- sociopaths. I Can SEE that person X has a flat, lack of affect on certain subjects. Its one of the reasons I like Aspies; their aura's are fascinating, and their behaviors are not as transmitted before the fact unlike 'nuero-typicals'